I am at a crossroad in my life. So many choices looming before me, and each one will change my life…dramatically. As I face this uncertain future, I am reminded of all the times we play it safe, all the times we choose not to do something for us as individuals because we don’t want to hurt the ones around us. We stop believing in ourselves and take the easy way…the gentle, don’t-upset-the-apple cart way. We are afraid to venture out, to be who we are, because we are so afraid we will be condemned, ridiculed, or worse — we’ll fail.
Sometimes we feel so afraid we don’t want to venture outside our homes, outside the comfort of the cocoon we’ve built around us. Sometimes this fear can debilitate us and we need interventions, either through therapy, drugs, or both. But what about when we let fear keep us from doing things with our lives that might actually push us and change us for the better?
Recently I went jet-skiiing with my son. It was scary. 35 mph on the water, on a small jet-ski, is scary, at least for me. I hit wakes. I had some air time. I was terrified I would crash and burn, but I didn’t. I took a risk, I survived, had a great day with my son, and I crossed something off my bucket list.
As we look upon our lives, I believe there comes a time we must set aside our own fears, all the norms we’ve clung to that make us feel safe and secure. Every day should be a day of exploration, a day to push ourselves to step outside the comfort zone…to seize the day. Life isn’t living in a shell. It’s about experiences. Breathing. Living bravely and embracing the fears and sadness . Life can’t really happen until we do.
I’m ready to seize the day. Are you?