A dear friend of mine recently told me about a conversation she had with her therapist. During that conversation, my friend expressed how much she’d always been there for others, how she’d always taken care of them, sheltered them from harm, picked up the pieces of their broken hearts and given them a shoulder to cry on. Now, when she needs the same, no one is there for her and she’s hurt and angry.
She said the therapist nodded and sympathized over the lack of human compassion. She understood my friend’s grievances. What she couldn’t understand was why my friend failed to treat and love herself the same as she did others. Why was she looking outside for the strength that lay within?
For days afterwards I pondered this thought. Why is it, I asked myself, do we treat others better than we treat ourselves? Aren’t we just as important as those around us?
My heart and mind answered with a resounding “YES!” (Oh, Lord, I think I just heard my mother turn over in her grave).
No, Mom, I’m not talking about being self-centered. I’m talking about being self-aware. It’s about praising yourself for a job well done, to be proud of an accomplishment. It’s about being kind to yourself, to love who you are, even with all your flaws. It’s about pursuing your dreams with the same vigor you use to encourage others. It’s about realizing your own self-worth.
I read a quote once that said something like” “Life is the gift God gave to you. What you do with it is your gift to God.”
It has taken me a long time to realize I have an abundance of self-worth, however realizing it and believing it are two different things. I still doubt myself, my inner voice. I still question my decisions. I berate myself for my stellar accomplishments, convincing myself ‘it’s’ never good enough. Most of all, I tend to believe other’s opinions of me over my opinions of myself.
2013 will be different.
Every day will be a day of affirmation. Every day I will show respect for my inner-self. Every day I will honor myself for a job well done, no matter how big or how small. Every day I will cherish the life given to me and do my best to grow into the person I want to be. Every day I will dance to the music of life. Why do I choose to do these things? Because I deserve nothing less.
What about you? What do you deserve?
- Depression: My Story and How to Cope with It (yourmotherssoup.wordpress.com)
- human qualities (christianrward.wordpress.com)
- where to start. (dispatchesfromthedesert.wordpress.com)
- How to Discover Our Core Gifts Within Our Wounds (psychologytoday.com)
- Is Perception Everything? The Answer is Yes and No (barbarascovillelcsw.com)